Want a natural childbirth? Stop talking to your friends about labor. Trust.
February 24, 2014
How you want to have your baby is your choice. Whether you want a homebirth, a midwife-assisted hospital birth with no epidural, or a planned C-section, the choice is yours.
As a doula (and friend), I just happen to talk to lots of women who want to have a natural, non-medicated childbirth. I've learned one simple thing you can do to help you reach your goal is to stop talking about labor with other women (and men, actually). Here's why ...
So maybe my statistic about the number of births each day didn't exactly quell your fears. Here are some ideas:
Take a childbirth class. Knowledge is power. Not only will you learn about labor and what to expect, but you'll also learn tools for managing the pain and really helpful relaxation techniques. Relaxation and mindfulness take practice. Practicing during pregnancy will better prepare you for labor.
Surround yourself with positive birth stories. Ina May Gaskin (the lovely midwife in the above video) wrote the classic, Ina May's Guide to Childbirth. I recommend this book to all of my clients and friends. The first half is filled with natural birth stories. Read one or two each night before bed.
For some reason, once you are pregnant, women love to tell you crazy, anecdotal stories of hellish labor scenarios. Or, better yet, they may even try to talk you out of having the natural birth you want. I'll never understand this. So just avoid it. Do your research, prepare, maybe even talk to a doula, and surround yourself with positive birth stories. You can do this.